Regret is such a wasted emotion. Every experience you have ever had, has added value to your life. You may not have seen the value, but that is not proof that it had no value, it is merely an indication that your perspective at the time had blinded you to its value.
You will often be faced with choices and, being human, you will probably screw it up from time to time. I certainly do. Know this, this is the nature of life, and if you accept this and don’t beat yourself up about your mistakes, you will remain clear in your thinking and free from energy sucking, mind f**** (oops, sorry!!), mind destroying regrets.
I love this poem by Robert Frost. The message is timeless, but yet often misunderstood. It reminds us that when we come across forks in the road, we can only make our decision based on what feels right at the time. Therefore, we should never look back with regret if we later come to realize that the road not taken was the better option.
The Road Not Taken, by Robert Frost.
“Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim
Because it was grassy and wanted wear,
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I marked the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I,
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.”
I have no regrets. I mess things up often, many times unknowingly. I’m sure you do as well. I will never judge your value as a person on your mistakes. Like me you are on a journey and there are many forks in the road, and we will base our decision, of which way to go, on the knowledge we have at the time, and the reality is that that knowledge we have might not be enough to make the best decision. THAT’S OK.